A letter to my ex...

Dear Ex,

I usually don't like to say I hate people, but I am starting to hate you. In life we have went from being lovers and friends to being whatever it is that we have become. I thought, four of the biggest blessings and the most precious memories were made with our children...blessings you are turning your back on and memories you are replacing with ones of you not being there.

We as a family went through so much, but as parents we have always attempted to shield our troubles from the view of our children. When the time came for us to separate and later divorce we protected our children, showing them a united front. Trying to teach and show them that parents can get along no matter what happens. Showing them that two people remain parents no matter if the relationship between them falls apart. And showing them that we remain family no matter what.

As of late you have taken my view of you and stomped it into the dirt. You decided to take a girlfriend, one who has been in the lives of our children in a different role and change their lives even more. I really want to tell you that there is nothing wrong with having a girlfriend, falling in love, or even remarrying, the problem happens when you become a boyfriend and forget that you were a father first. I am very upset with you because you have chose to put this woman ahead of your children. The kids explain to you that they don't like her being there every time they try to visit you and you make excuses about why she is. THEY WANT YOU! You were a father first.

You have moved on I get that, but you cannot move on from being a father...YOU WERE A FATHER FIRST...you can move on from being a husband and a friend to me and that is a great thing. We didn't get along, we were not meant for each other....but the kids were meant to be...they are yours...u belong to them and they belong to you. YOU ARE A FATHER FIRST....NOW ACT LIKE IT....

In the end it will be you who is left looking at a broken relationship between you and your children asking yourself if it was preventable....I am here to tell you that it is preventable...u can change things....change them now....


Arnita